It’s funny, but a lot of times my guides bring me multiple clients living the same theme within a short period of time – usually lessons we all learn in different ways and at different times in our lives. This week, the theme is best summed up by a quote by Coco Chanel, “Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.” How many of us have stayed in jobs, friendships, living situations, romantic relationships or even school majors that are not only no longer serving our highest good, but may actually be toxic? Regardless of your self esteem, if you’re human, you’ve almost certainly been in that situation at least a time or two.
Hope is such a wonderful and powerful thing and it can help to transform darkness into light; but there’s a difference between hope and refusal to accept a truth that has been shown to you over and again. In many instances, it’s a case of living your life to meet the hopes or expectations of loved ones; in others, we stay with a friend or romantic partner who betrays our trust out of our own loyalty or hope the situation will change, despite knowing in our hearts it won’t.
It can be so painful to move on, but what I’ve learned from my guides in my own life is that it’s not moving on from the true situation itself that causes suffering so much as our hope that it will someday turn into what we want it to be: a healthier, better version of itself. Unfortunately that rarely happens; acceptance is a huge part of life, but it can transform the pain of torn fists from beating your hands against a brick wall into healing.
If you find yourself in a negative situation that continues to be unhealthy for you, I hope you’ll remember that you’re not alone and that, by accepting the situation for what it truly is, you’ll still have the option to stay if that’s what you really want, but clarity will help empower you to make a decision that’s best for you.